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With Counselling and Life Coaching we can turn our problems into possibilities and opportunities
There is more to happiness than simply feeling satisfied with one’s life.
A recent study found that experiencing the self as interdependent coincided with increased happiness through feeling greater harmony with others. The findings suggest that happiness does not simply depend on one’s life satisfaction. Rather, happiness is also shaped by the extent that one feels interdependent and in harmony with others. Self-centeredness involves the feeling of being an independent and autonomous being. This mindset involves seeking pleasure by maximizing positive outcomes for oneself, leading to fluctuations in happiness that are dependent on external stimuli. On the other hand, selflessness and the feeling of being interdependent promotes lasting happiness, since one’s happiness is no longer dictated by external events. It has been proposed that selflessness gives rise to feelings of harmony, inner peace, connection with others, and authentic happiness. In simple terms, seeing ourselves to be separated from others and our environment (the experience of self-centeredness) was linked to lower happiness, whereas seeing ourselves to be closely linked to others and the world around us (the experience of selflessness) was linked to higher happiness. The study also found that when individuals experienced selflessness, they felt a sense of harmony with others and within themselves. With Counselling we can further our future psychotherapeutic development, helping us reach high and stable happiness despite life's adversity and in turn this can lead to a more peaceful and serene society overall. Excerpts reposted with permission To read the full study, published on October 25, 2021 in Mental Health by Beth Ellwood (earned degrees in Psychology and Behavioural Science from McGill University) click on: http://www.bellacounselling.com/bellas-blog/category/relationships With Counselling, we can heal your childhood traumas so they do not negatively affect your future and romantic relationships
With Counselling we can learn how to be honest with ourselves and also others so our needs are met without manipulation
Are you getting Ready for Marriage?
The Importance of Pre-marital Counselling You’ve set the date. You’ve bought the rings. You’ve bought the dress. You’ve booked the venue and maybe even quarreled over where to put Aunt Rose on the seating chart. The two of you have spent so much time, money, and effort planning your ideal wedding ~ but how much energy are you putting into planning your ideal marriage? For many, the seemingly never-ending list of tasks to accomplish before you get married can distract you from what’s most important: building a secure foundation for the journey you are about to embark on with the one you love most. Your wedding day will come and go. But, if done well, your marriage will last a lifetime. Premarital counselling can be a powerful way for you and your partner to prepare for the life and family you are creating together. What is premarital counselling? Premarital counselling is a specialised type of therapy which helps couples to prepare for marriage. Partaking in premarital counselling before getting married enables couples to begin to build a healthy, strong relationship that can help to provide a solid foundation for their union. Premarital counselling helps couples identify and address potential areas of conflict in their relationship, counselling can also prevent small issues from escalating into serious concerns in the future. Another great characteristic of premarital therapy is that it can also help couples identify their individual expectations for the marriage and address any significant differences they might have. Goals of Premarital Counselling Premarital counselling is provided in order to help couples enhance their relationships prior to marriage. Through counselling, couples are advised to discuss numerous topics, including the following: Communication skills Finances and money management Expectations, beliefs and values Children and parenting Decision making and conflict resolution Intimacy, affection and sexuality Dealing with anger and emotions Roles in marriage Premarital counselling is a great way for couples to enhance their ability to communicate and establish realistic expectations from one another and at the same time is also a great way to develop conflict resolution skills. It’s crucial to remember that each individual brings their own opinions, values or history into a new relationship which do not necessary match with their partners. Quite often people get married thinking that marriage will fulfill their emotional, financial and social needs. Unfortunately, this does not turn out as they would have hoped or expected. Thus, when differences and expectations are discussed before marriage, a couple can develop ways to understand and more importantly, support each other once married. Too often couples get so tangled up spending time and money planning the perfect wedding, they fail to address issues that would serve as a foundation of their marriage later on. Therefore, for newly engaged couples, premarital counselling is a positive, affirming and bonding experience which can only heighten their commitment to get married and essentially to the marriage itself. In times like these, it’s really important to remember to breathe.
Deep, slow breathing reduces stress on our body and relaxes our nervous system. Try inhaling for 8 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhaling for 8, hold for 4 again and repeat. It’s important to breathe into our belly instead of upper chest. Let's try an experiment by incorporating this into our day when we are stopped at a red light, cooking, listening to music or before going to bed and see how we feel. I hope you’re all keeping well. I'm missing all my clients and look forward to connecting with you again in person. |
 
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